GAZE

Stories of Personal Transformation

About the BLOG

When I go to parties and people ask, “What do, you do?” I tell them. “I’m a mirror gazing expert.”

Some turn away believing they’ve spotted a narcissist enabler. Others are intrigued, and sometimes even a bit terrified at the thought of looking at themselves. Mirrors can evoke some strong feelings in us. But they can also be incredibly helpful in ways you might not have imagined.

It’s through the mirror we come face to face with ourselves. Being reflected is one of the most important and powerful experiences we can have as humans. But as we spend more time alone gazing at our devices, we miss the human reflection that is essential for our well-being, and our social and emotional development. Through the mirror we can come face to face with ourselves anytime.

Welcome to Gaze! This blog shows you how to use a mirror to shift your focus from problems to solutions.  In my work with hundreds for mirror meditation students, it’s been fascinating to discover how just a simple mirror can be a catalyst for so many different kinds of discoveries for people. Read the amazing stories of what happens when people are brave enough to come face-to-face with themselves in the mirror.

 

Week 3. Dealing with Invisibility

Week 3. Dealing with Invisibility

Last week we met Katrina and learned how she used mirror meditation to disrupt her selfie addiction. Pat had a different kind of self-image problem. As a therapist, she felt comfortable in the role of nurturer and support person. Pat was quite modest and even...

Week 2. Dealing with a Selfie Addiction

Week 2. Dealing with a Selfie Addiction

Last week, we met Clare whose relationship with the mirror involves intense scrutiny of her appearance. Once she shifted her attention to see how she was creating her own suffering, she was able to stop her habit of self-criticism. Katrina, on the other hand, didn’t...

A Remedy for Appearance Obsessions

A Remedy for Appearance Obsessions

When people find out I teach mirror meditation, they often say, “I hate to look at myself in the mirror!” Followed by The Trifecta of Self-Cruelty: “I’m too fat, I’m too old, I’m too ugly.” This Trifecta, as I’ve come to call it, has many variations, but they all have...